The importance of letting your child experience the session independently

Dear parents, To all those who accompany their children to swim sessions at Swim Stars, we’d like to share with you the importance of letting your child develop independently during these sessions. This subject is particularly relevant to activities where children have to fend for themselves, such as swimming lessons for older children, and differs from baby-swimming sessions where your presence is essential.

Why is it beneficial for your child not to intervene?

1. Concentration and Attention

When you’re not present or involved, your child can concentrate fully on the coach’s instructions and the activities on offer. Without trying to capture your attention, he or she is more attentive and engaged in the session. This maximizes their learning time and helps them improve their skills more quickly.

2. Initiative and self-confidence

In a calm environment with no parental pressure, your child is encouraged to take the initiative. He learns to solve problems by himself, to try new things and to surpass himself. This autonomy strengthens their self-confidence and sense of competence. Autonomy in the water can also foster independence and responsibility in other aspects of life.

3. Positive encouragement from the coach

Coaches are trained to understand and encourage children constructively. Unlike some parents who, although well-intentioned, may shout or give contradictory instructions, coaches know how to motivate and guide children in a positive way. Your absence allows the coach to work in the best possible conditions, establishing a relationship of trust and mutual respect with your child.

Why might your presence be counterproductive?

1. Source of Stress and Anxiety

Your presence can inadvertently become a source of stress for your child. He may feel observed and judged, which can dampen his enthusiasm and performance. What’s more, multiple and sometimes contradictory instructions between you and the coach can confuse him and interfere with his learning. By avoiding this situation, your child can concentrate on personal progress rather than on meeting your expectations.

2. Distraction risks

Your child could easily be distracted by your gestures or comments. This distraction prevents them from fully immersing themselves in the activity and reaping all its benefits. What’s more, children who constantly seek their parents’ approval can develop an emotional dependency that hinders their ability to make decisions for themselves.

3. Autonomy development

Children need space to explore and learn without constant intervention. This is integral to their cognitive and emotional development. Learning to swim independently teaches them resilience and perseverance. They learn to face challenges, deal with frustration and enjoy a sense of accomplishment after overcoming obstacles.

Our recommendations for an optimal experience

1. Dedicated areas and non-intrusive zones

In some pools, we can define specific areas where you can observe without intervening. This lets your child know you’re present without feeling constant pressure. These areas are designed to minimize distractions while allowing you to remain engaged in your child’s journey.

2. Argumentative and informed speech

We firmly believe that you, as parents, are our partners in your child’s development. That’s why we encourage you to adopt an informed stance on the benefits of your child’s independence in the water. The motor, social and psychological benefits are numerous and should not be underestimated.

In conclusion

Your role is essential in the early stages of learning, but for activities requiring greater autonomy, it’s beneficial to take a step back. We understand that this can be difficult, but by taking this approach, you’re helping your child develop valuable skills and grow in confidence. By allowing your child to navigate the water on his own, you’re giving him the chance to develop essential skills that will set him up for success in many areas of his life.